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Lesson 8 – What truly creates change?

When I asked Tal Ben-shahar “What works in truly transforming people” he beautifully gave all of us at the dinner table his research and analytical understanding of the answer to this question. As a leader in the area or Positive Psychology at Pennsylvania University, he started by informing us what factors are not necessarily guarantees of success. These included: 1. Qualifications – A qualified Psychiatrist, with all his/her medical training and years of specialization (all … Continue reading

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Lesson 7 – Healing can only happen at source

One of the saddest and most frustrating (for the client and myself) experiences I come across in coaching and life generally is peoples continual desire to attract and collect friends and acquaintances in an attempt to feel valued and valuable. It is my experience that we choose this “strategy” as a catharsis for past experiences. More specifically we do it to disprove the self-imposed damage created from the disconnection/ betrayal/rejection/scorn/isolation etc created through experiences with … Continue reading

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Lesson 6 – Accepting and acknowledging the shadow

We all have a dark side – our shadow as Freud calls it. You know, the one that wants to inflict pain (physical, emotional, mental or otherwise) on that person (or ones self) who: • Cut you off in the traffic • Put you down at work or school • Pushed in to the queue at the supermarket • Dumped you 5 years ago • Lied to get you in trouble, and keep themselves clean … Continue reading

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